Hm... Don't know what I'm doing wrong. It's in the /etc/gromox/gromox.cfg now... Restarted... Doesn't help...
Downgraded gromox to version gromox-2.33.30.g4a6189a... Still with the exmdb_force_write_txn=1... Doesn't help... It stays the same. One or two new mails are visible via imap, and silence after that.
Back to my contab restart imap services every few minutes and waiting for better days.